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Posted: Apr 22, 2014 - 6:32pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:

I'm sure they've dealt with families like yours before.

 
 
 
 
 
We are a force to be reckoned with. {#Group-hug} A sister running the cable stations from Hawaii, sisters coming up from the tri-state area on a regular basis - spending the night and stocking Mom's mini-fridge and playing the grand piano in the lobby and asking that they bring hot water and tea bags (along with coffee caraffes for those who drink TEA instead - local sibs sneaking her off to Young's Dairy for an ice cream Sundae.....they need to put a revolving door up.


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Posted: Apr 22, 2014 - 6:24pm

 Alexandra wrote:
It's not such a good thing when you're a "helicopter" parent......but I think it's totally appropriate to be a "helicopter child" when your elderly parents can't think and do for themselves anymore.
 
 
Elmcroft probably hates us, though.

 
I'm sure they've dealt with families like yours before.
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Posted: Apr 22, 2014 - 6:22pm

It's not such a good thing when you're a "helicopter" parent......but I think it's totally appropriate to be a "helicopter child" when your elderly parents can't think and do for themselves anymore.
 
 
Elmcroft probably hates us, though.
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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 4:57pm

 ScottFromWyoming wrote:
 Alexandra wrote:
A wise friend 
 
You have one of those too? Excellent. 

 
 
I have several - but this one seemed to appear just when I needed to hear what he had to say.
 
 
 
Red_Dragon wrote:

perhaps she has already begun her next journey...

 
 
Perhaps. She might be all done, here and ready to move on to bigger and better things soon. And perhaps she will live until age 96 like her older sister! She's always been incredibly healthy and strong (bearing 9 kids, surviving a triple bypass, sailing into her late years without any meds, etc.).
 
No matter - we will live for the now.


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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 4:45pm

 Alexandra wrote:
A wise friend 
 
You have one of those too? Excellent. 
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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 4:35pm

 Alexandra wrote:
I feel compelled to say that what I wrote the other evening was in a rare moment of fear and desperation after a phone call with my sister.
 

 
A wise friend pointed out that now is the time, more than ever, to be glad my mom is alive and able to share...and to savor what time we have with her...letting go of all the other things we think we have control over. And so that is what I will do.

 
perhaps she has already begun her next journey...
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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 10:58am

I feel compelled to say that what I wrote the other evening was in a rare moment of fear and desperation after a phone call with my sister.
 

 
A wise friend pointed out that now is the time, more than ever, to be glad my mom is alive and able to share...and to savor what time we have with her...letting go of all the other things we think we have control over. And so that is what I will do.


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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 9:36am

 Alexandra wrote:

 
I'm sorry to hear that, O.T. How old is she?
 
 
It's just a hard, heartbreaking time of life when parents reach a point of decline. Especially when some of us have chosen to live far away.
 
I'm still very grateful for the 4 years I got to care for her in her home before I left. Difficult as it was some days, it was so incredibly rewarding in so many ways.

 
She just turned 82 (on Wednesday).  Wish I could have been there. I plan on visiting again this summer.

 

You're right, being far away makes it that much more difficult. If I lived up there, I'd stop by regularly. Fortunately, I have a brother and sister who live near my parents, although I think they could do more to help. But it's easy to be a critic from a thousand miles away!


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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 9:23am

 olivertwist wrote:

That's great that you're able to talk to your Mom like that. As has been said, though, she might surprise you and grow more comfortable in her new environment. {#Meditate}

I'm similarly worried about my Mom. When I visited at Christmas, I realized it's very possible that it could be the last time I'd see her during the holidays. She has emphysema and is no longer even able to take a few steps without gasping for breath. I believe she's only gone outside the house once or twice since Thanksgiving - to the doctor. My father's taking the best care of her that he can, but I realize that her condition could send her to the hospital any day. Not getting enough oxygen really takes its toll on every part of the body.



 
 
I'm sorry to hear that, O.T. How old is she?
 
 
It's just a hard, heartbreaking time of life when parents reach a point of decline. Especially when some of us have chosen to live far away.
 
I'm still very grateful for the 4 years I got to care for her in her home before I left. Difficult as it was some days, it was so incredibly rewarding in so many ways.
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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 9:16am

 Alexandra wrote:

 
Thank you
 
 
And everyone else
 
 
Like R, I hope I'm wrong. She may surprise everyone yet. I told her she has to stay alive until June, when I get there - and she laughed and said she would—we have that kind of understanding when we talk to each other.

 
That's great that you're able to talk to your Mom like that. As has been said, though, she might surprise you and grow more comfortable in her new environment. {#Meditate}

I'm similarly worried about my Mom. When I visited at Christmas, I realized it's very possible that it could be the last time I'd see her during the holidays. She has emphysema and is no longer even able to take a few steps without gasping for breath. I believe she's only gone outside the house once or twice since Thanksgiving - to the doctor. My father's taking the best care of her that he can, but I realize that her condition could send her to the hospital any day. Not getting enough oxygen really takes its toll on every part of the body.


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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 8:55am

 helenofjoy wrote:

{#Hug}{#Meditate}  So sorry.  I guess it's not surprising.  It seems the older we get, the more we need the comforts of what we know best.  No matter how much better something else might be too - that has been my own experience and I will never forget it.  My heart goes out to you Alexandra.

 
 
Thank you
 
 
And everyone else
 
 
Like R, I hope I'm wrong. She may surprise everyone yet. I told her she has to stay alive until June, when I get there - and she laughed and said she would—we have that kind of understanding when we talk to each other.
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Posted: Apr 6, 2014 - 8:09am

 Alexandra wrote:
I don't think my mom will last long in her new place. It was just too late in her life to introduce a change that big—her home environment was much healthier without night noises waking her up, other sick people around, and a lot more walking for her tired lungs. She might have her good days, but overall.......I think it's going to diminish her strength, both physically and emotionally.
 
 
 
It was a gut feeling all along, that she'd go downhill if we moved her. but I tried to be positive about it. 
 
 
    
And there's not a Got damn thing I can do about it.
 
 
 
 

 
{#Hug}{#Meditate}  So sorry.  I guess it's not surprising.  It seems the older we get, the more we need the comforts of what we know best.  No matter how much better something else might be too - that has been my own experience and I will never forget it.  My heart goes out to you Alexandra.
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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:53am

 Alexandra wrote:
I don't think my mom will last long in her new place. It was just too late in her life to introduce a change that big—her home environment was much healthier without night noises waking her up, other sick people around, and a lot more walking for her tired lungs. She might have her good days, but overall.......I think it's going to diminish her strength, both physically and emotionally.
 
 
 
It was a gut feeling all along, that she'd go downhill if we moved her. but I tried to be positive about it. 
 
 
    
And there's not a Got damn thing I can do about it.
 
 
 
 

 
{#Hug}
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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:33am

 Alexandra wrote:
I don't think my mom will last long in her new place. It was just too late in her life to introduce a change that big—her home environment was much healthier without night noises waking her up, other sick people around, and a lot more walking for her tired lungs. She might have her good days, but overall.......I think it's going to diminish her strength, both physically and emotionally.
 
 
 
It was a gut feeling all along, that she'd go downhill if we moved her. but I tried to be positive about it. 
 
 
    
And there's not a Got damn thing I can do about it.
 
 
 
 

 
{#Good-vibes}{#Pray}{#Meditate}I hope you are wrong....{#Hug}
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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:32am

 Alexandra wrote:


 

 
 
Thank you. I've had to do a lot of letting go, lately.........and it's not easy. 

 
{#Good-vibes}
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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:28am

 meower wrote:




 

 

 
 
Thank you. I've had to do a lot of letting go, lately.........and it's not easy. 
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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:27am

 Alexandra wrote:
I don't think my mom will last long in her new place. It was just too late in her life to introduce a change that big—her home environment was much healthier without night noises waking her up, other sick people around, and a lot more walking for her tired lungs. She might have her good days, but overall.......I think it's going to diminish her strength, both physically and emotionally.
 
 
 
It was a gut feeling all along, that she'd go downhill if we moved her. but I tried to be positive about it. 
 
 
    
And there's not a Got damn thing I can do about it.
 
 
 
 

 
{#Meditate}
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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:23am

 Alexandra wrote:
I don't think my mom will last long in her new place. It was just too late in her life to introduce a change that big—her home environment was much healthier without night noises waking her up, other sick people around, and a lot more walking for her tired lungs. She might have her good days, but overall.......I think it's going to diminish her strength, both physically and emotionally.
 
 
 
It was a gut feeling all along, that she'd go downhill if we moved her. but I tried to be positive about it. 
 
 
    
And there's not a Got damn thing I can do about it.
 
 
 
 

 


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Posted: Apr 4, 2014 - 7:18am

I don't think my mom will last long in her new place. It was just too late in her life to introduce a change that big—her home environment was much healthier without night noises waking her up, other sick people around, and a lot more walking for her tired lungs. She might have her good days, but overall.......I think it's going to diminish her strength, both physically and emotionally.
 
 
 
It was a gut feeling all along, that she'd go downhill if we moved her. but I tried to be positive about it. 
 
 
    
And there's not a Got damn thing I can do about it.
 
 
 
 


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Posted: Mar 22, 2014 - 10:15am

 Alexandra wrote:
Thank goodness for iPhones and Skype. I just got to "be" at my mom's apartment blessing with the rest of my family there.

 
{#Clap}
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