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FourFortyEight

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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 4:46pm

 Alexandra wrote:

 

Always.

 

And if anyone is all about comfort and NOT suffering, it's Hospice....I'm surprised they don't stay engaged. A friend of mine in the Pharm business who dealt with lots of Hospice reps say it's a huge business these days (now that it's subsidized), even when people aren't near death.



 
I can see that being true.  Mom was in hospice for less than six hours before she passed.  I'm quite sure it's that under-tongue dose of morphine that "took the edge off".  Either way, by that time, and under the circumstances in the end, it was a blessing for mom and I both.  

... if that's what happened. No way to know at this point.


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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 12:38pm

 FourFortyEight wrote:

I certainly do feel for you in that situation. It gets to a point where, exactly as you said, the lack of quality of life and suffering becomes the major concern.

 
 

Always.

 

And if anyone is all about comfort and NOT suffering, it's Hospice....I'm surprised they don't stay engaged. A friend of mine in the Pharm business who dealt with lots of Hospice reps say it's a huge business these days (now that it's subsidized), even when people aren't near death.


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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 12:24pm

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Apparently my mother is not declining fast enough so they are talking about taking her off hospice. i think much of it is due to taking her off many meds and switching to patch for pain management.I have mixed feeling on all that. She has no real quality of life.Dementia is probably not going to kill her, but the Diabetes/kidney failure likely will at some point. I am the only one who gives her chocolate for some reason, but then I am her favorite.

 
I certainly do feel for you in that situation. It gets to a point where, exactly as you said, the lack of quality of life and suffering becomes the major concern.
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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 11:33am

Apparently my mother is not declining fast enough so they are talking about taking her off hospice. i think much of it is due to taking her off many meds and switching to patch for pain management.I have mixed feeling on all that. She has no real quality of life.Dementia is probably not going to kill her, but the Diabetes/kidney failure likely will at some point. I am the only one who gives her chocolate for some reason, but then I am her favorite.
Alexandra

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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 11:07am

 FourFortyEight wrote:

My heart goes out to you. Lost my mom about two weeks ago. Life is different. The suffering has ended but I sure do miss her.  Hang in there. 

 
 

I saw that - I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have been trying to imagine just how different life will be when Mom is finally gone—-even though she's had a longer, fuller life than most people's parents (she'll be 94 in November)...and I will only know for sure when it happens. I will miss that whole era of brave people who danced to Big Band music and survived the Depression, a world war, their kids going to Vietnam, and everything else.

 

Thank you.


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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 10:35am

 Alexandra wrote:

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

 

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....



 
My heart goes out to you. Lost my mom about two weeks ago. Life is different. The suffering has ended but I sure do miss her.  Hang in there. 
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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 6:40pm

 Alexandra wrote:

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

 

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....



 
{#Hug}
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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 6:04pm

 Alexandra wrote:

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

 

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....



 

{#Meditate}
 


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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 4:38pm

 Alexandra wrote:

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

 

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....



 
{#Good-vibes}
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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 1:10pm

 Alexandra wrote:

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

 

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....



 
{#Good-vibes}
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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 1:08pm

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

 

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....


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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 11:12am

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I have tremendous love and respect for her.

 
 
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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 10:16am

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With our mother now a "fall risk" having fallen twice (in addition to the stroke) and sustained 2 compression fractures in her spine - my eldest sister has suspended running her business in Hawaii and left the islands to stay with Mom indefinitely. If Mom sticks around and lingers in her ever-weakening condition, J and my other local siblings will form a plan to get her into a room that has way more care provided (at her assisted living). If she doesn't last much longer, it will be such a blessing that her loving daughter was tending to her needs in her final weeks/months.
 
And my 69 year-old sister is doing this with a bad back, arthritis in her knees, and only six months out from having taken care of her late husband like this for a few years.
 
I have tremendous love and respect for her.

 
{#Meditate}
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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 8:38am

 Alexandra wrote:
With our mother now a "fall risk" having fallen twice (in addition to the stroke) and sustained 2 compression fractures in her spine - my eldest sister has suspended running her business in Hawaii and left the islands to stay with Mom indefinitely. If Mom sticks around and lingers in her ever-weakening condition, J and my other local siblings will form a plan to get her into a room that has way more care provided (at her assisted living). If she doesn't last much longer, it will be such a blessing that her loving daughter was tending to her needs in her final weeks/months.
 
And my 69 year-old sister is doing this with a bad back, arthritis in her knees, and only six months out from having taken care of her late husband like this for a few years.
 
I have tremendous love and respect for her.

 
{#Good-vibes}
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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 6:26am

 Alexandra wrote:
With our mother now a "fall risk" having fallen twice (in addition to the stroke) and sustained 2 compression fractures in her spine - my eldest sister has suspended running her business in Hawaii and left the islands to stay with Mom indefinitely. If Mom sticks around and lingers in her ever-weakening condition, J and my other local siblings will form a plan to get her into a room that has way more care provided (at her assisted living). If she doesn't last much longer, it will be such a blessing that her loving daughter was tending to her needs in her final weeks/months.
 
And my 69 year-old sister is doing this with a bad back, arthritis in her knees, and only six months out from having taken care of her late husband like this for a few years.
 
I have tremendous love and respect for her.

 
what a strong family you have.
Coaxial
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Posted: Sep 12, 2016 - 9:30pm

 Alexandra wrote:
With our mother now a "fall risk" having fallen twice (in addition to the stroke) and sustained 2 compression fractures in her spine - my eldest sister has suspended running her business in Hawaii and left the islands to stay with Mom indefinitely. If Mom sticks around and lingers in her ever-weakening condition, J and my other local siblings will form a plan to get her into a room that has way more care provided (at her assisted living). If she doesn't last much longer, it will be such a blessing that her loving daughter was tending to her needs in her final weeks/months.
 
And my 69 year-old sister is doing this with a bad back, arthritis in her knees, and only six months out from having taken care of her late husband like this for a few years.
 
I have tremendous love and respect for her.

 
{#Meditate}Sending vibes of peace and understanding to you all.{#Hug}
Alexandra

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Posted: Sep 12, 2016 - 8:58pm

With our mother now a "fall risk" having fallen twice (in addition to the stroke) and sustained 2 compression fractures in her spine - my eldest sister has suspended running her business in Hawaii and left the islands to stay with Mom indefinitely. If Mom sticks around and lingers in her ever-weakening condition, J and my other local siblings will form a plan to get her into a room that has way more care provided (at her assisted living). If she doesn't last much longer, it will be such a blessing that her loving daughter was tending to her needs in her final weeks/months.
 
And my 69 year-old sister is doing this with a bad back, arthritis in her knees, and only six months out from having taken care of her late husband like this for a few years.
 
I have tremendous love and respect for her.


Alexandra

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Posted: Aug 26, 2016 - 10:02am

Thanks, everyone

 

The nurse said she's actually improving today, walking to lunch with her walker again and smiling. Still confused and hard to talk/form words...but at least not actively dying. Not yet, anyway.

 

What a tough woman. I hope I'm that tough at 93.


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Posted: Aug 26, 2016 - 6:28am

 Alexandra wrote:
Mom had a ministroke today, and she is now under Hospice care. It's too soon to tell if she is or is about to start actively dying. But things have definitely changed as far as mobility, speech, coloring, etc.
 
We (my siblings and I) are hoping that she doesn't have to languish or enter any period of prolonged infirmity. The last time one of my sisters spent the night with her, she (sister) dreamt she was talking to my Dad...and when she awoke, Mom called out Dad's name in her sleep. As a believer in an afterlife, something is definitely significant about that (to me).
 
Just sending her waves of peace and love at this point.

 
{#Meditate}
Coaxial
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Posted: Aug 25, 2016 - 7:00pm

 Alexandra wrote:
Mom had a ministroke today, and she is now under Hospice care. It's too soon to tell if she is or is about to start actively dying. But things have definitely changed as far as mobility, speech, coloring, etc.
 
We (my siblings and I) are hoping that she doesn't have to languish or enter any period of prolonged infirmity. The last time one of my sisters spent the night with her, she (sister) dreamt she was talking to my Dad...and when she awoke, Mom called out Dad's name in her sleep. As a believer in an afterlife, something is definitely significant about that (to me).
 
Just sending her waves of peace and love at this point.

 
Sorry, A...Sending love and light to you all.{#Hug}
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