RP Journal - Radio Paradise

Posted: May 21, 2012 - 11:28am

I agree with Alexandra also.

Let your feelings come and go, without judgement. Think of the good things about him, what made you attracted to him and send him love for that. You'll be okay, and he'll be okay. Don't be so hard on yourself! :-)

Posted: May 17, 2012 - 11:43pm

I agree with Alexandra. The people that you have met become a part of you, even if they are no longer with you or even alive anymore. A lot of memories are sweet, some bitter, but these are the memories and experiences that define you and determine your perspective. They become part of the lens through which you view the world.

The pain of a disconnected relationship builds your personality. It makes you more real.

Afterall, if you never loved or experienced things and people, what would you have to write about? {#Ask}

Posted: May 17, 2012 - 6:46pm

Ever heard the theory by Jung, "What you resist persists....and gets bigger?"

If it were me.....I wouldn't try to resist not being over him. There might be a part of you that will never be over him. You might think about him when you're 80 years old with a smile and a sweet memory.

It's not ruining your life...you're moving forward....is it just the idea of not being over him that's bothering you?

I would embrace it.

Posted: May 16, 2012 - 12:24am

No, I don't do that. There's no specific song that reminds me of him. But sometimes, some lyrics send my mind in that direction, in that instant. So I can't really do anything.

I'm not in pain, like..really in pain, depressed and things like that. But I do think a lot about him, and that drives me crazy, because I don't understand it. Our relationship was a short one - only 3 months, and we didn't really got extremely close because he had...he still has some emotional problems. That's why I can't understand why I'm feeling this way.

Posted: May 15, 2012 - 6:11pm

If you're listening to the first few notes of the song because it comes on somebody else's radio before you can get away, that's one thing. If you're playing the song, that's another. If it's the latter, then why you'd do that to yourself becomes a pretty interesting question. One perhaps best answered with professional help. . . .

Posted: May 15, 2012 - 5:49pm

I completely agree with miamizsun. He's a wise fella. I really like this statement he made: "give yourself permission to go ahead and live your own life".

DO IT! {#Hug}

Posted: May 15, 2012 - 12:00pm

Someone told me to look in the mirror and ask myself if me or he had anything to lose. But I wonder...isn't that selfishness or something?

Posted: May 15, 2012 - 9:08am

don't listen to the song

make a decision

decide what you want, a reasonable, realistic plan to get there (or get it)

then get busy

as far as i can tell you're beautiful young woman with good qualities/values that has a lot to offer

give yourself permission to go ahead and live your own life

i'd start immediately {#Biggrin}

Posted: May 15, 2012 - 6:12am

It's tough ... I could tell you such a story, but I'll spare you the boring details! Just try not to close your heart off to loving someone else.