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Posted by Skaterella - Jun 29, 2012 - 5:05pm
so, in the realm of things this isn't that big a deal but it sucks. 

we are supposed to go to the shore with my in-laws and my husbands sister & her kids tomorrow.  doug & Ben are going to stay until Wednesday and then come back because Ben starts Extended School Year on Thursday.  The plan is for Lily to stay for 2 weeks & I'm going to go to work & stay at the shore at night.  The kids are looking forward to going & to seeing their cousins,etc.

For the 3 or 4 days that Ben & Doug will be there,the plan was for Buster to come as well.  He can go anywhere because he's a public access service dog for Benny.  Today Doug calls & tells me that his mother talked to the rental realtor & there are no pets allowed. I reminded Doug that Buster can go anywhere so he asks me to call his mother cause he was at work (code for-i don't want to get into with my parents so you do it...)

I explained to her that its not a problem & Buster can go anywhere; he'll have his Service Dog vest, etc.

Bottom line is, they never talked to the realtor. His parents just don't want Buster to come.  Buster is literaly better behaved than my kids. 

I know that it is their right to say we can't bring Buster.  But it just sucks that they won't let their grandson bring his dog.  especially, since Buster is more than just a pet.  

I'm not willing to put Buster in a kennel (for many reasons, but the last time we boarded a dog -which was at our previous vet's office- they let her get into a bottle of Draino & after 5 horrific weeks we had to put her down.)   Plus at this point, we couldn't find a kennel by tomorrow even if we wanted to.  I don't want to disappoint the kids so it looks like Doug willl take the kids & go down til Wednesday.  I wasn't planning on going down til Sunday anyway, cause I'm going to NYC tomorrow so I suppose i'll just hang out here & go to work Monday (which I would've done anyway) and just go done Wednesday when Doug & Ben come home.  That way, Buster is taken care of & benny gets a chance to go down & see his cousins & go to the shore before summer school starts.

It just sucks because we spend most of our "family life" split up because of all the issues with Benny.  We sorta have to divide and conquer.  it just would have been nice to be together at the shore.  and its just annoying that the governement can mandate that complete strangers be cool with our kid & his dog but our damn family isn't able to do it.                 
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Orion6

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Posted: Jul 3, 2012 - 6:11am

Famn Damily. Hiope you and yours find a way to enjoy the holiday! {#Angel}
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Posted: Jul 2, 2012 - 9:48am

The grandparents are wrong. Selfish and wrong. As others have mentioned, I'm disappointed somebody did not stand up to them. Like, oh, their son.

 Even if you don't put much stock in the Bible, it has some nuggets of good advice, one of which is that when two people get married, all of their other relationships take a back seat (slightly paraphrased, you understand). In our dealings with our families, we'd all do well to remember that our spouse is the single most important person in our life, and act accordingly. Easy to say from the bleacher seats, I know.

But it doesn't matter. It sounds like you're making the best of it, that's all anybody can do.

Best wishes to you and yours.
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Posted: Jul 1, 2012 - 1:02pm

Jekyll  family is a a good name for us!  I usually refer to our extended family as the Manson family, for example,  Holiday gatherings are referred to as the manson Family Xmas Special!!    {#Wink}
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Posted: Jul 1, 2012 - 12:26pm

{#Arrowd}please don't heckle the journalist...
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Posted: Jul 1, 2012 - 11:52am

{#Arrowd} the Jekyll Family? aint seen hyde nor hair of em
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Posted: Jul 1, 2012 - 10:44am

I hope this makes you laugh, but at first when I saw the title of this journal (with my glasses on and not my contacts) I thought it said "jekyll family ..."


hippiechick
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Posted: Jun 30, 2012 - 6:23pm

I made sure that my children got to know their out-of-town grandparents by visiting at least once a year, because even though they were people I greatly disliked I thought my kids were entitled to know them as they were.

I was wrong. Know it's getting thrown back in my face. I should not have made them spend time with people who were negative, racist, and unpleasant in many ways.  
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Posted: Jun 30, 2012 - 2:15pm

People ... they're no damn good ($.25 to Maryte).

I'm sorry you have to deal with these petty, little people. And it sucks even more that they're relatives.


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Posted: Jun 30, 2012 - 9:55am

This is disappointing - on more than one level.  I suppose it's unfair to deprive your children of even nasty grandparents (what, is she afraid of dog hair???), that she would place her own discomfort ahead of her grandchild's need for his service dog says a lot about THAT family.  I found myself angry that your husband didn't stand up for his son.  I know, I know, I'm not "supposed" to judge, but damn it's hard. 
lily34
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Posted: Jun 30, 2012 - 9:21am


hippiechick
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Posted: Jun 30, 2012 - 4:15am

Manipulative people! They make a loaded offer, and then make you suffer because of it. Your husband should say, it's all of us or none of us. Doesn't seem fair to deprive the kids of the shore, but it also isn't fair that they are manipulating you. What if Ben was blind?

Personally I think that in the end you would all be better off staying home, because hanging out with people like these sucks anyway. You know I can relate, because I went through the same thing with my crazy in-laws (not to mention my own crazy mother) and my husband never had the balls to stand up for his own family. Try calling their bluff and say you all aren't coming unless the dog can come. See what happens.

I hope you can work this out to the satisfaction of everyone.
kurtster
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Posted: Jun 29, 2012 - 8:51pm

Service dogs have a special place in my heart.

This has just got to hurt at so many different levels.

Be brave and try to keep smiling. 

Maybe you and Buster can have a good cry together.




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Posted: Jun 29, 2012 - 7:39pm

Well I don't know the whole story, but I hope that some day you all will be able to spend the very close family times together...at the shore.